What is resonance?

What resonance is

Think of everything in the universe as moving, each thing at its own rate. When two things move together, they amplify each other — that's resonance. What's already there in you gets bigger when it meets something outside you that matches it. Because we're energy too, navigating the world every day — watching a show, having a conversation, walking past the trees on the way to work — we're always in resonance with what's around us. An ongoing exchange with our own life.

This is really the language of the universe: everything moving, interacting, certain things amplifying each other along the way. Once you understand the world this way, a lot of experiences that used to feel random start making sense.

Sometimes it's like you're an instrument life is playing. Sometimes what comes out is a full symphony — joy, magic, soaring elation. Other times it's sad and mournful. And sometimes it's a cacophony, and it's not making any kind of music at all. Understanding the world this way — as energetic, as something that resonates — becomes genuinely useful once you start clueing into it, once you become an observer of your own resonance instead of just being swept along by it.

Finding the word that lets energy move

You can leverage this by listening to yourself in such a way that you find the words that really match what you're feeling. What can happen is it feels unclear, cacophonous, blocked, stuck inside — and as you listen to the melodies going on in there and land on the correct word, it amplifies that word for a moment, so the energy underneath can finally do what it's meant to do.

Sadness, in a lot of cases, is there to gather up old energy and help you let go. Anger moves you to reclaim your space — it shows up when a boundary's been crossed. Fear or anxiety is an alarm bell: pay attention, something here is new, something here is unknown.

The resonance that isn't yours to keep

Another way to use this: notice when you're resonating with things outside you that aren't for your good. People you don't like. Public figures who get under your skin for reasons you can't quite explain. When you notice that, it's worth getting curious — there might be something in there for you to take ownership of and bring some healing attention to. It's a different move than just avoiding what irritates you: it's asking what in you is actually being amplified by it.

Being sensitive, before and after

If you're a sensitive, introverted person the way I am — or used to be — this can feel like a lot, because you don't have much padding. You just feel what's happening around you. Before I understood resonance, I felt like a total victim to it. I needed a lot of alone time. I didn't like being around people much, because I could feel their emotions.

Since I've done my own clearing work, there's a lot less in me to resonate with the emotions I don't like.

Resonance got smaller, which lets me observe and respond instead of absorbing everything. I don't identify as much of an introvert anymore, where that used to be a huge part of how I saw myself. I don't identify as strongly with being a sensitive person, either — even though sensitivity is one of the biggest skills I bring to this work. I just feel less like a victim to it.